by Seismic Sam on Mon Feb 08, 2010 11:57 am
Pistol concealment is TOTALLY different for women and men, and holsters that work well for men can be pretty much unusable for women, so be aware of this and do NOT just try to copy what your male significant other may be doing.
In addition, there is one VERY substantial drawback to carrying your gun in your purse instead of a holster, and that is that is that there are low life vermin out there who grab ladie's purses and run. Now in general, these types are cowardly, bottom feeders who literally want to take the money and run, but if one of these low-life cowards snags your purse and looks inside for the money and finds the gun, they may well decide they can come back at you and try looking behind door #2. So, unless all other options are exhausted, do NOT carry the gun in your purse.
To illustrate the difference between good holsters for men and women, men can very comfortably carry a full sized 45 Auto in an IWB (inside the waistband) holster all day long. For women, this can be quite uncomfortable because of the slant of their hips at the waistline, the top of the holstered gun tends to cant into the body and poke you in the waist or the short ribs. On the other side of the coin, shoulder holsters tend not to be good for men with wide chests, and I am one of those who can simply NOT draw a gun from a shoulder holster without doing all sorts of contortions. I have a 48" chest, and my arms are simply not long enough to reach all the way across to my left side to grab the gun. Women, on the other hand, have relatively narrow shoulders, so a shoulder holster can work quite well for them, and they can grab the gun quickly.
Now, there are a couple of things about concealing a gun that have NOTHING to do with how well it's hidden, and that is ATTITUDE and EXPERIENCE. The first time you carry you feel self conscious as all hell, and it takes a few weeks to get comfortable with the whole feeling. From there you can progress forward to becoming more and more used to it, and after a while you do NOT feel right unless you have a gun on you. You should also be aware that in general people are INCREDIBLY unobservant, and 90% of the time you can OPEN CARRY and if you have the right attitude practically no one will notice. As an example, I am missing the ends of three fingers from my left hand, and I can hold my hand up and ask people how many fingers? MOST of them will say FIVE, because they are not expecting to see less, so they ACTUALLY SEE FINGERS that aren't there. With a gun, it's the opposite, and if they don't expect to see it, it can be sticking out in plain sight and their eyes will NOT pick it up. If you want to test this out, go into the Gopher Bar on a quiet day and try it out, and it normally takes people 5 to 10 minutes of looking at you before they wise up to the fact that you have a full size 45 Auto on your hip (or elsewhere...)
Another trick is misdirection, and I deliberately carry my gun at 3 o'clock on my waist and my bulky old fashioned cell phone on my waist at 9 o'clock, and under a shirt the phone sticks out way more obviously than the gun. And that brings up a rather delicate subject which HAS to be discussed as far as pistol concealment for women, and that's the fact that any mature woman knows how to make men stare at some parts of her if she wants to. I mean, really, men are SO easily manipulated in this area that it's really embarassing, but that's the way it is. As a result, with the proper choice of bra and an attractive blouse with a just the right amount of exposure, you can have a humongous 50 caliber Desert Eagle pistol on you in a shoulder holster that is bulging out of your jacket three ways from Sunday, and NO guy will EVER see it. EVER!! I'm not joking or trying to be cute here, I'm just telling it like it is.
So, typical guy holsters are not likely to work for you, and you will have to work out on your own depending on your clothes style how to carry a gun, and remember, for you it does NOT have to be invisible, it just has to be not noticable, and that is a HUGE difference.