farmerj wrote:I am guessing you have smaller hands. At least, smaller hands than me.
Nope, actually the opposite. I have these freakishly long alien fingers. Well, not quite that bad, but I do have larger hands.
People have preconceived notions of how a pistol is supposed to be gripped. People instinctually grip a pistol incorrectly until they are taught the (hopefully) proper way. Large hands can grip small objects just fine. In fact once you learn how, it's actually easier to properly grip a small pistol because more overlap of the hands helps to produce a more reproducible index, and more uniformity of pressure. You can hold a toothbrush just fine, so you can hold a small pistol just fine as well.
You need to throw away any preconceived notions about what is "right" about gripping a pistol, and instead focus on what your grip is trying to accomplish. All you're trying to do is to firmly and uniformly apply pressure on the gun to keep it from slipping in your hands, to allow the "spring" that is your wrists and forearms to return the orientation of the gun back to where it came from after recoil, and put put your finger in a position where you can press the trigger perfectly rearward without disturbing the orientation. As long as you do this, it doesn't matter how your hands contact the pistol.
On my P239 I run a modified thumbs forward grip. My finger contacts the trigger past the first knuckle crease. The tip of my finger actually gently touches the side of the mag release before I begin my trigger press. Anyone hung up on the "right" way to do things would immediately say that this is totally wrong, except that it works perfectly. On a good day I can shoot 3" groups at 25 yards, and can shoot 6" groups with under .20 second splits at 10 yards with this grip. Not bad for a compact single stack 9mm with a "wrong" grip
It can take awhile to figure out how to grip a smaller gun properly, and by properly I mean the 3 objectives your grip needs to achieve. If you're willing to throw away any concept of what is "right" and simply find the grip that achieves those objectives, you'll be able to shoot a small pistol just as well, and possibly a little better than a full sized pistol.