I won't offer a recommnedation but I will offer the following suggests:
1st pick a style of handgun, revolver or semi auto - sounds like you've done that already
2nd pick a frame style, 1911, 2011, polymer, highpower, ect - best way to do that is to shoot a few of each and see what your preference and ability is with each. You can rent at many of the local ranges but honestly a call out here will normally get you someone willing to let you try whatever they have.
3rd narrow your selections by features (barrel lenght, safety options, capacity, light rail, holster options, ect.) you desire and your budget - keeping in mind being financially conservative is fine, go the cheapest route on the other hand might not be in your best interest. Again try some with various mixes of the features on your list. Barrel lenght/caliber combinations as an example can drastically change the impression you get.
4th go shopping and look at both new and used, some of the used stuff holds its value so well that for a few bucks more you can have new, if you buy used look over your choice well if if you're not qualified to do it find someone to to do even if it mean paying a smith a few bucks.
The short answer is no one should tell you what to get(although we all might tell you what you should consider, be it a 1911 or a glock), you really need to weigh the factors yourself and then try them. Only you can know whats right for you.