OK,
Thanks for everyone who posted. I'm thinking now of something like the compact M&P (not sure of caliber yet) or perhaps the Beretta 9000. Does anyone else have ideas? I tried the XP, it's nice but I'm not sure if it fits me (I'll try to shoot one before I make a final decision). I really like the 1911's but my thumb can't reach the mag release. I tried the Kahr, it seemed nice but didn't fit my hand either. I'm open to most anything but for now, the M&P seems to be in the lead.
Finally, I've read a lot of bad reviews on the Beretta but it felt pretty good in my hand. I also read several good reviews. Your opinions on the 9000s? Let me know.
Thanks
Flip