by Randygmn on Thu Sep 29, 2016 9:57 pm
IMO, a carry gun should be different from a home defense gun (size, weight, capacity, rail, etc). For a first gun I'd only consider 9mm. It's ubiquitous, inexpensive and extremely capable.
Your first consideration is body size. It's harder for a small guy to conceal a full sized duty gun. But, that makes no difference when laying on the nightstand. Single or double stack? Single is all the rage now for carry because it's thinner. Firearm width and grip length (not barrel length) are the two most important factors when considering something concealable. Again, a home defense gun in your dresser drawer isn't subjected to these considerations. As mentioned above, you can choose metal (heavier) or polymer. Hammer fired or striker fired. Single action AND double action, double action only (1911's, amongst others) or striker fired (technically single action but most often referred to as double action).
There are guns that serve both roles, but you'd sacrifice some concealability. Glock 19 is the perfect example. It's considered a compact (not full/duty size, nor is it a subcompact or a micro). It holds fifteen, which is fantastic capacity. If you're a small guy, would be doable, but as big as you'd want to go if you're looking to conceal (either inside the waistband or shoulder rig). There are similar sized all metal guns, too. CZ makes the Rami. Beretta makes a 92 compact. Sit makes the 320 (in every size because it's modular). Single stack 9's come in the Glock 43 (simple way to go from 6+1 to 8+1 without adding ridiculous looking mag extensions- I'll tell you if you're interested), SW Shield. Springfield XD, Khar, and of course all your 1911's. Everything on this "list" is around $600 or so, with the exception of the 1911's. You can spend more on HK's if you like.
As everyone has mentioned, you can go to Bills in Robinsdale and finger bang all those pistols, and more. See what feels right in your hands. Pick a few of your favorites and the. Then go downstairs and rent the same models and start shooting. You'll know what feels right. A few tips, when you decide-buy a quality holster. That means don't ever buy anything nylon. Consider a model with night sights or has the ability to buy aftermarket. Remember, there's low/no light conditions AT LEAST 50% of the time. And finally, capacity is king. Buy the biggest gun, with the most capacity that you can comfortably carry. No one has EVER survived a gun fight and said, "gee, I wish had taken less ammo with me"
Good luck.