CRButler is right about Quickload. It's a great tool, but the data that comes out is only going to be as good as what you put in. In this case, it is just confirming what we already knew - that the load in question is too hot for your rifle.
As for measuring neck tension, easiest way is to measure a loaded round and a sized case and subtract the difference. Here is one of my .308 Palma cases that is sized and ready to load:

And here is a loaded round:

Now, if I take the loaded round measurement of .3355" and subtract the sized case measurement of .3335", I get neck tension of .002". This is exactly what I want, and is what I spec'd this die for when I ordered it. Depending on the brass and die you are using, this number could vary widely. Most off-the-shelf dies would err on the side of too much neck tension, I haven't seen one that didn't give enough tension with factory un-modified brass. If you are using different brands/headstamps/years of brass, the neck tension will likely be different from one to the next, sometimes very different. If you are shooting mixed range brass(hopefully you are not, especially since you are using max loads), they could be anything. All of my Palma brass is prepped very specifically, and all of the cases are virtually identical. I can take any loaded round and any sized case and get the same numbers to within .0005". The load I shoot is specifically for this brass in my chamber. If I grabbed a random piece of .308 brass from LC, Winchester, etc, and loaded it with the same load, it would likely be seriously over-pressure and cause problems.
You may or may not be able to do anything about the amount of tension on your bullets, but it is a number worth knowing either way. Bushing dies can be used to adjust tension, and are a decent solution much of the time. The consistent .002" tension on my load means that the powder charge needs to develop the same amount of pressure inside each case to get the bullet to release. This is good for maintaining consistent velocities, consistent brass life, etc. Here's an example of what inconsistent brass could do. If you had 9 pieces of brass with .014" neck thickness, and 1 piece with .016" thickness, and sized them in the same die, the .016" is going to have much greater neck tension than the other 9. The pressure spike inside that case needed to get the bullet out of the neck will be much higher than in the other 9, and you could have serious pressure problems with that single case of the batch. A blown or pierced primer would not be at all unlikely in this scenario.
One other thing to mention. You didn't specify exactly what you meant by blown primers. If they are piercing(hole in the primer where the firing pin strikes), you should think about replacing your firing pin. Any time this happens, the hot gasses escaping through the primer hole will damage the tip of the pin to some degree and leave a less-than-smooth surface. This rough surface will greatly increase the likelihood of piercing more primers, even with less pressure. It's always good to have a spare on hand anyways, they are cheap.
Good luck,
Erik