by XDM45 on Thu May 03, 2012 3:15 pm
You know, things change under pressure. Maybe you know to remove the safety before you fire and maybe after 3,000 times it's muscle memory, but suddenly when confronted with a stressful situation, you forget, your mind freezes, whatever. **** happens. That's life. Not everything is predictable or controllable.
She probably should have just left, but she didn't. My wife's ex-husband abused her and while I try to understand, I know I never will. There's just some things you have to go through to understand. For example, both my parents died from Cancer, so I know Cancer as a descendant who's parent died from Cancer. I am also a Cancer survivor myself, and I have a understanding in that regard too. I had Melanoma, but that doesn't mean I understand someone who had Colon Cancer. My point being that life is extremely variable. I had an uncle come home from WWII and every time a screen door slammed shut, he ducked for cover (PTSD - then called "Shell Shock").
Abuse leaves not just physical and emotional scars, but spiritual ones as well. Abuse is a Cancer of the soul because it permeates every layer. My wife is better now, but she is still afraid, even though I would never harm her and would die to protect her. If I talk loudly, she gets afraid. We've been together since 2005, and her stuff "ended" in 1995, but still... Anyway, my point is that I think there needs to be some common sense in life, with laws, and in understanding. Clearly the guy lied in this case, she's abused, traumatized, etc. Honestly, instead of aiming at the ceiling she should have aimed a few feet lower. The world would be a better place for it.
Gnothi Seauton